After one DR telling us mum has Dementia and another DR telling us she is simply old we considered power of attorney , for mums benefit , after all she wouldn't be getting any younger . After getting all the family to agree my sister and myself concluded it would be simpler if she and I took on this role. We think most of the family agree with us , theres always the one that doesn't, hay ho.
We went to work , contacting solicitors , all the family were contacted as well , just to make sure they all were up to date with the situation really. I started going to mums and stopping over here and there a bit more , mostly to see what the situation was , how was she coping and what couldn't she do really. I helped her clear quite a bit of stuff out and gathered together a lot of her papers and any bills .
I noticed mum had loads of Avon , In fact mum had enough Avon to open a shop , she was just on a loop, the book was shoved the door so she ordered from it, the same with her shoes , the catalogue came through the door so she ordered more shoes. It seemed like mum was living in a vortex , purely out of habit , day in day out , same old , same old........
I found to my astonishment mum had shoes all over the house, new shoes in boxes , never worn . Jewellery Items , five watches the same , five necklaces the same , hundreds of scarves . It felt like mum was being taken advantage off , not deliberately but , nobody was questioning her habits .Most of what I found was brand new and never used , in some cases not even opened . some of the Items dated back to 2008 , that's nine years of just lying there untouched . A lot of the clothes I found were in a size fourteen , mums only a ten at the most .
I managed to get some kind of order and went through things with her and finally she agreed , no more Avon and no more shoes . It would have been the easiest thing in the world to do , just chuck out all mums things but I couldn't , shed spent her whole life collecting and paying for and burrowing things away , it seemed cruel and heartless just to throw it all away . Were all guilty of buying loads of crap we don't need. Mum deserves more respect than just anyone , I think its her right.........
