Dementia and my mum....Stressful times

My mums dementia is progressing quickly. Still hasn't been formally diagnosed , but its obvious. That's the thing about the elderly , everything takes so long to change or materialise with regards to their care.
  My mum has been plodding along , I fetch the meals , I go on doing all the jobs like showering her , washings ,paying bills the lot. Don't get me wrong , my mum is coping well with the one call a day , but now needs more. She has had several falls and has even been out shopping on her own , us being unaware of this , mum can't even remember any of it.
   I went to mums recently and did all the usual things for her, even took her out for lunch , had a dab time. Later that day mum became quite unwell. She was so unwell I had to call the Drs The Dr suggested we take mum to A&E.  Once there it was obvious that we would be there a while ,,seven hours to be precise. Mum was admitted and was given a bed on the assessment unit ,mum has a bug , which one though.
  Mum was dehydrated and had a urine infection , she was vomiting and had diarrhea . Mum was moved after a few days, five to be precise, to a royal Victoria at the western general . I have to say what a super fab place for the elderly , calm ,clean and spacious .Mums been there a couple of days now and she has since fallen and fractured her pubic bone, she has a whacking huge bruise on the side of her eye and to top it all I only found out last night by pure accident that my mum has a highly contagious bug , called campylobacter. The hospital didn't feel the need to inform us of this.. How bizarre , In fact the nurse said the Dr was a bit over the top . Suggesting we wash our clothes anyway everyday . Never mind the fact I work with the elderly and have a husband with a bowel and gut disease himself. Anyway , enough of all that , mums still in hospital, awaiting physiotherapy.
  I have made it quite clear that if they send my mum home now she won't cope. Not a chance. Watch this space.......

Who actually cares anyway......Dementia and my mum

Oh my life...what a journey. As off the 14th August my mum's life is unrecignisable . My sister has since passed away and my lovely mum hasn't been able to shed a tear or actually discuss her death , life . Not even really able to show emotion, asking almost daily if Sheila is alive or did she die ..
    Mum can no longer leave the house alone as it is not safe for her to do so. She has to rely on the good will of the strangers she calls family , son's and daughters namely.   I spend alot of my time sorting out mum's things , from tidying  out the house to shopping  , paying bills  and the like . I know my mum has had a couple of falls and that she has been luck not to be harmed by this , but , it has just been that , luck.
   Iv had to discuss all manner of topic with my mum. In order to prevent some future catastrophe taking place. Namely mum's death and home situation when they arise . Mum's agreed this should all be done in advance. She has no specific wishes or intentions towards any part of her demise or future care. She doesn't have any special requests or orders to partake to anyone . She has no special flower or tune. I am sure though some one will make that their duty to the detriment of all others..